The couple Lee Sang-in from "My Precious Child" shed tears after hearing the true feelings of their second son.
On the 21st, the second story of "actor Lee Sang-in and his wife, a mother on the edge due to raising three sons," was revealed on Channel A's "Recently Parenting - My Precious Child."
On this day, the second son displayed behavior such as riding a bicycle and crashing into his brother, who was stuck in a pile of dirt with a broken chain, while their mother was away on household chores. At first, it seemed like a simple mistake, but he seemed to intentionally chase and attack his brother. Eventually, when his brother fled into the house, the second son fiercely stared at him, drawing attention.
Lee Sang-in was shocked by the unexpected behavior of his second son, saying, "I've never seen this before. It is rare for the second son to show aggression first. This goes beyond aggression; it is at the level of bullying." In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young noted, "Human nature is refined through education. One aspect of that is revealed in how one treats the weak. If not learned at a very young age, it becomes easier to attack the weak."
"To the second son, his older brother is the weak one. As the differences become more pronounced, it becomes evident that his older brother is at a disadvantage. If not learned properly, he may see him as more vulnerable. This situation is described as a very passive form. It's passive aggression. Since it seems wrong to openly bully, he attacks pretending it was a mistake," she explained.
Meanwhile, during the time when the father and the three brothers were doing origami together, while Lee Sang-in was focused on the oldest, the youngest unexpectedly began to bark orders at the second brother as if the hierarchy had shifted, surprising everyone. The second son tried to accommodate the youngest's feelings, but the youngest continued to be angry, and Lee Sang-in, unaware of the situation, sided only with the youngest.
The second son, feeling overwhelmed, eventually hit the youngest in the face with his fist. The situation quickly escalated into a flood of tears, and their mother picked up the second son and separated him from the youngest.
Additionally, the second son struggled to socialize with friends at kindergarten and began to mimic the oldest by repeating the same words or exhibiting unusual behaviors. Lee Sang-in's wife remarked, "I was aware through intermittent counseling that his nature is passive and that he can't play actively, but I didn't know it was to this extent."
Dr. Oh Eun-young stated, "If the oldest has congenital difficulties in socialization, the second son, while distinct from the oldest, also has challenges in socialization development." She added, "Typically, siblings who are two years apart mimic the eldest significantly. It is a type of 'mirroring.'"
In particular, Dr. Oh Eun-young reassured regarding the question, "If the younger sibling mimics an autistic older sibling, does that mean the younger one will also become autistic?" saying, "Absolutely not. It doesn't happen just by imitation. They may face difficulties if they don't receive developmental stimulation, but imitating does not lead to autism."
Meanwhile, after bumping into their mother, the second son burst into tears. Despite their mother's apology, the second son raised his voice in anger. Suddenly, the oldest intervened, saying, "Get mad," and then displayed an impulsive action of pushing the crying second son.
In response, the second son grabbed the oldest by the hair, and their mother barely managed to separate them. In a heartbeat, the second son, feeling neglected, asked, "Mom, do you dislike me?" However, their mother only explained the situation and disciplined him, failing to understand the second son’s feelings. Eventually, the mother showed rapid emotional changes, suddenly going from crying to laughing to getting angry. The children appeared confused by their mother's emotional fluctuations.
Dr. Oh Eun-young explained, "The second son has unresolved distressing emotions that end without conclusion. Their mother continually tries to explain the situation to him. This is emotional invalidation."
Meanwhile, the day arrived when the couple Lee Sang-in, who had been living as a weekend family, was heading to Seoul. The train station became a sea of tears, and the panelists watching in the studio remarked, "Has this been six years?" and Shin Ae-ra lamented, "How have we managed this weekly? They need to be together immediately. What kind of riches are they enjoying?"
Amid all this, the second son, watching his mother, oldest brother, and youngest brother comforting each other, showed a mature demeanor of offering consolation, drawing attention.
In the follow-up interview about his true feelings, the second son confessed that he felt lonely because his mother and father did not play with him, and he couldn't communicate with his older brother. Eventually, he said, "When mom sighs, she looks like she's having a hard time. I wish dad were here every day," demonstrating he was still thinking of his mother, which brought tears to the studio.
[Photo] Capture from the broadcast of "Recently Parenting - My Precious Child"
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