Divorced singles preparing to remarry said they failed to identify problems in advance, with men saying they were "blinded by" the other person's looks and other strengths, and women saying they "vaguely trusted" the other person.
A recent survey by the matchmaking company Vienarae found that skewed criteria in choosing a spouse were the main factor that led people to overlook signs of divorce.
Asked why they failed to eliminate in advance the causes that led to the breakdown of their marriage with their former spouse, 35.1% of men cited as No. 1 that they were "blinded by" the other person's strengths (such as looks). In contrast, 32.1% of women most often answered that they "just believed, thinking no way."
Next, men chose "believed, thinking no way" (28.7%), while women chose "were blinded by the other person's strengths (such as financial power)" (26.1%), showing a gender gap in perspective.
The results also showed that both men and women cited "problems arose after marriage" (men 22.0%, women 23.5%) and "the other person thoroughly hid it" (men 14.2%, women 18.3%) as reasons for failure.
Experts noted that overemphasizing external conditions such as looks or financial power over inner factors like personality, values, and attitude toward life when choosing a spouse leads people to overlook signs of divorce.
Men and women had similar views on the main sources of conflict that arose during married life. "Personality and values" (men 33.2%, women 29.1%) and "household finances" (men 27.3%, women 34.7%) ranked first and second, respectively. There were differences below third place: men cited children (23.1%) followed by the spouse's family (16.4%), while women said issues with the spouse's family (20.5%) were a bigger source of conflict than issues with children (15.7%).
Experts advised that the success or failure of marriage is divided into two stages: choosing a spouse and maintaining the actual married life. They said that when choosing a spouse, it is important to consider looks, ability, and personality evenly, and after marriage, not to lose the attitude of respecting the partner in line with changes in living conditions.