Actor Han Guru revealed that she also grew up in a divorced family.
On the 2nd, the Hyungsoo is K.WILL channel uploaded a video titled "MZ-style parenting that does nothing while other moms push private education hard."
On that day's Knowing Hyungsoo content, single mom Han Guru appeared as a guest and talked about marriage and childrearing. When asked, "How did you decide to get married so early?" she said, "I got married at 24. I was married for eight years. It was a long time. I was so busy working that one day suddenly I wondered. Was I really doing this because I wanted to? I didn't have an adolescence when I was young. It seems to have come late. At the time I think I chose marriage as a way to step away from everything for a while, maybe that's what I think now."
When asked whether there was any opposition from those around her, she agreed, "Yes. I was so young and there were still many things I could try." She added, "Looking back now I wonder how I could think that way. My closest senior Han Chae-ah strongly opposed it. As someone who does the same work, she regretted and said you have many roles you can do now and you might regret it later."
Asked what prompted her to decide on divorce, Han Guru recalled, "My mother divorced when I was young and lived alone before remarrying and living with my new father. Watching my mother live, always enduring and struggling, I think I shared that stress. If I am happy, the children will be happy, and if the children's father is happy, he can be happier with the children. It felt like choosing for myself might be okay at times, and that thought came to me when I decided to divorce."
She continued, "When the children first experienced the divorce and separation they cried a lot. They searched for their father. The children seemed anxious about whether they would never see their father again. I told them, 'Mom and dad aren't a family by blood, right? You were friends who became family and then friends again, but you and Mom, you and Dad can never be strangers.' At that time I searched and bought books about various family forms and read them to them. I told them everyone's life process is different," adding, "We promised to meet very often with my ex-husband, so at least one or two days a week they spend time with their dad. The children seem to have gotten used to that now."
Especially when asked about remarriage, Han Guru said, "If I get married again, I honestly think the children's opinion is most important. I used to be impatient by nature, but I've become a little more relaxed about that because of the children. It's not just about what I like; there are many circumstances. If the children like it and all situations are right, living together wouldn't necessarily be bad. But strangely, I'm not confident about completely living in one house. I'm cautious in many ways."
She said, "I like my stepfather very much, but living with him was uncomfortable. I worry that forcing the children to call him 'dad' from today because I like him could become a hurtful or unpleasant memory for them later. So my ideal is a married life with somewhat separate spaces. Eating dinner together, playing together, but sleeping separately with me and the children. I think it's important to keep things from breaking each other's illusions. If I remarry, I'd always want to be a woman to that man. I don't want to show my disheveled side. I wonder how nice it would be if I could live like that. I also wonder if there is someone who likes that."
Meanwhile, Han Guru married a civilian businessman nine years her senior in 2015 and conceived twin boy and girl through artificial insemination, but divorced in 2022. She briefly left the entertainment world for marriage and childrearing, returned to acting after the divorce, and has continued her activities as a working mom while raising the twins alone.
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