A family medicine specialist and entrepreneur Yeoh Esther confessed about her broken engagement experience.
On the 28th, a video titled "Human Theater, My wife's summer vacation ep.2" was uploaded to the "Yeoh Esther's Esther TV" channel.
The video showed Yeoh Esther giving counseling while having a barbecue party with staff members, and her husband Hong Hye-geol watching her and providing direct narration.
Yeoh Esther said, "She was the daughter of a family I knew; she even had the wedding invitations printed and then called me. She said that after various things, when it came time to get married she suddenly wanted to cancel, but she was very troubled because of saving face for her parents and both families. Do you know what my trait is? I just decide. I said, 'When you called me about that at that time, you should not marry that man,' so she canceled, and she still hasn't married. I'm a little sorry she still hasn't gone, but I'd rather she not live with a strange man."
Next, the first concern appeared: "We've been together a long time but I'm not sure about marriage. How do I gain confidence in the man I will marry?" In response, Yeoh Esther said, "At the very least, you should be a little happier with this person than when you're alone, even if there are some discomforts. If you don't have that certainty, it's no good. Second, see how he treats other people: the security guard, the servers — you really need to see that a lot. If you've been together a long time and still aren't certain, if the person is capable and loves me and likes me, you can marry; if not, you may hit a period of boredom right after marriage."
She said, "For example, when I was in medical college, I had a friend whose student number was right before or after mine. That friend had a girlfriend in premed but broke up because he said he would focus on studying. I also thought I wouldn't have romantic entanglements, so we stayed close, but in the first year of the professional course my father passed away and I had a very hard time. That friend helped me with histology slides and things while we went around together, so people called us a campus couple," and she brought up her campus couple experience.
Seeing this, Hong Hye-geol snapped, "Why are you telling the kids that, it makes me mad," which drew laughs. Yeoh Esther said, "Then we got engaged when we graduated. During internship I met all kinds of people and had experiences. Midway through internship, as the wedding date approached, my chest grew tight. So I said I wouldn't get married. My younger sibling tore at my hair. My younger sibling liked that friend," she said, causing surprise. Hong Hye-geol also said, "It's easier said than done; it's really something. To break an engagement six months before is not an easy thing."
Yeoh Esther said, "We were engaged for a year, and six months before the wedding I said I couldn't go through with it. I just didn't have certainty then. That friend couldn't understand why a woman had multiple pairs of shoes. For example, he would tell me, 'Don't perm your hair.' Then I couldn't perm my hair. Sometimes when I was very angry I'd get a perm once. Then he said that when married there must be soup in the morning. I can't cook," she said, and Hong Hye-geol reacted, "Does that make sense? It's fortunate she broke the engagement."
Yeoh Esther said, "Then I spent three full years alone as a resident. In the fourth year I met Dr. Hong. Of course I was an older unmarried woman when I married Dr. Hong, but wasn't Dr. Hong a little unusual? Fundamentally he is kind, good and basically a sincere person. And when I went to his in-laws' house, everyone there was nice and the young people were all kind, so I married him," while also saying, "But saying he was poor means I had no sense of finances," which drew laughter. Hearing this, Hong Hye-geol snapped, "What do you mean poor me?" which caused uproarious laughter.
Yeoh Esther said, "But that was because we were all in the same department. I would be fine if the man were poor. I wanted to marry the person I chose. I was even willing to support him. Still, Dr. Hong worked hard into his 30s and 40s and earned. You need that much before marrying, right?" she said, adding, "In our day, we thought we'd be criticized if we didn't marry. Female students were only 10%; except for one person and me, everyone got married. Only one person and I were left. That one person couldn't marry," conveying the mood at the time.
She continued, "Back then it was an era when not marrying seemed like a big problem. Even then I really hated being swayed by a man. If you're financially swayed by a man you have to live off household money and watch what you do forever, and that's not my temperament. What's wrong with me earning and supporting the family? It's harder to meet someone I want to marry. So if you're not certain, first see if there are defects in the prospect for marriage. If you bring someone to me and Dr. Hong, we'll look right away," she added.
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