Musical actress Hong Ji-min confessed past conflicts with her husband on YouTube.
On the 22nd, Hong Ji-min appeared as a guest on the YouTube channel "Make me new". She talked with MC Joo Younghoon, Lee Jeong-su and Yeoniel about her recent situation.
In particular, that day Hong Ji-min attracted attention by revealing the period when she had conflicts with her husband in the past. Hong Ji-min, who said she nurtured their love by meeting every day during the seven months they dated, recalled, "At that time I didn't even go to auditions and lived like a dutiful wife. I waited at my husband's house, and when he came home from work I would set out stew and heart-shaped rolled omelet and run to greet him like a puppy saying, 'Oppa, you're home!'"
But after marriage things inevitably changed. It was because Hong Ji-min had to be very active, appearing in various productions and broadcasts. Hong Ji-min said, "At first my husband liked it. Pretty juniors would greet him saying, 'Brother-in-law, you're here!' and I went to see musicals a lot. But the good things lasted only a day or two and he gradually grew tired of it."
She went on, "Later, when I took up hobbies he was lukewarm about them too, and one day suddenly said, 'You don't love me. Let's get a divorce. This is not the marriage I imagined.' I felt wronged. I wasn't doing anything outside, I was working and earning a lot of money, we started with difficulty, we lived in a 53-pyeong APT. and drove a foreign car. To be honest, I even thought we were well off," she confessed.
Hong Ji-min said, "How fiercely must I have lived during the seven years after marriage. Even so, when things didn't resolve I talked to my husband. I told him to choose: 1, let's get a divorce; 2, let's try. Without taking a breath he chose option 2. He tried to make an effort, but it didn't go well. There were so many couples counseling schedules that we took phone counseling, and he told me to drop everything and just stay home. How is that realistic? A musical has a one-year schedule. It was impossible," she said, confessing how helpless she felt.
She continued, "By chance I went to a lecture concert with a close younger friend for 10,000 won. There I heard a lecture called 'The five love languages.' The moment I heard it I realized what my husband's language was and what mine was. The love languages are 'words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, gifts, acts of service,' and the order can change. Above all, they said don't make definitive assumptions about the other person. For me it was physical touch, and for my husband it was quality time," she said, explaining what ended the conflict with her husband.
Hong Ji-min also said, "After hearing that, the first thing we did was start having breakfast together no matter how late I finished work the night before. Even if I went back to sleep after seeing him off, I maintained that routine a little. The relationship between us became surprisingly much better. Even though we only ate breakfast together, these days when I'm busy I go to see late-night movies and I fall asleep holding hands. He still likes that. I put date time with my husband on my schedule. I do it to make sure we spend time together," she emphasized.
Above all she said, "I felt so sorry. This was what my husband wanted, and I felt sorry that I couldn't give it to him, that after seven years of being starved for love it got to the point of 'You don't love me' and he said let's get a divorce." She added, "Because I work outside, when my husband slept first and came home late I would at least let my toes touch his skin and fall asleep. I would hold hands when we slept. Even now I need some skin to touch. Even when we fought I needed to at least have my toes touch him when sleeping to feel that my husband loved me."
[Photo] YouTube source.
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