Comedian Kim Ji-sun shared her youngest daughter's experience of going through a difficult time.
On the 14th, a video titled "Why Kim Ji-sun can stay so close to God" was uploaded to the CGN channel.
That day, Kim Ji-sun spoke about her children, from her second son who is active as rapper SIVAA (Siba) to her third son who is retaking the college entrance exam. Then the comment "thanks to the youngest, our marital relationship was restored" appeared and drew attention.
Kim Ji-sun said, "My daughter is a high school student. Our youngest went through a somewhat difficult period. The reason was that she transferred schools during that difficult time. She transferred to an alternative school because of our youngest, and then just 4 to 5 months after transferring, COVID-19 came. So she couldn't study properly at school. She had to be educated at home. So she became stalled in relationships and everything," saying she had difficulties with school friendships.
She said, "At the most sensitive time when she needed to learn the most and when relationships needed the most restoration, it happened that way, so it was very hard, and we received Christian counseling. When we were going to receive that counseling, the teacher said the parents should come first and meet me, so my husband and I went together. Then they counseled my husband and me for 12 weeks straight. They didn't meet the child; it became parental counseling. Then they healed the fundamental bitter roots that my husband and I originally had inside."
She continued, "I believed that only if I did well would I receive love. Thinking that, I was always trying to be good to my husband, watching his every move. Unknowingly, my husband's image of my father was projected onto him, so I kept trying to show myself well to my dad, to be the good daughter, the good wife. So if my husband was even a little upset, I would think, 'Is it because of me? Did I do something wrong?' That was how I was. And my husband, for his part, as a man felt he had to earn money, be a capable husband, manage the household; he had an image of a husband inside him. So if he felt he was lacking, he wouldn't speak. Then I would think, 'Is my husband mad at me? Did I do something wrong?' So the gap deepened. We lived watching each other's moods. It was about nothing."
Kim Ji-sun said, "As that was resolved, my husband started talking at home and I showed continuous respect to my husband as a father. Even if my husband earned a little less than me financially, I showed that I didn't care at all. So apart from the daughter's issues, the couple were restored and it was so good. The child is like that, but as the couple were restored, to the daughter it was, 'Don't worry. I love you as you are,'" she said, noting the positive influence.
She said, "If we hadn't had the fourth child, we wouldn't have known what problems my husband and I had, right? A couple who should have been close became an ambiguous couple; I didn't know my husband and he didn't know me. Because of the youngest daughter we found out, and I'm so grateful. After that, when you look at the youngest daughter, many people say, 'She must be having a hard time,' but I also think this: I surely had a reason for sending our daughter to our home, there must be reasons she goes through difficult processes, and I think our child will grow to be someone who will restore children who are going through the same hardships as she did when she grows up."
She added, "Our child really knows well the ostracism problems that happened among friends, the relationship problems she couldn't recover from herself, and various issues. Because she knows that pain, later she will know those children very well. Knowing them well, she will be the one to reach out first to those children and say, 'I fully understand how you feel.' Then how much would those children open the door to their hearts?" she expressed deep trust in her youngest daughter.
Meanwhile, Kim Ji-sun married her husband, who is the same age, in 2003, and has three sons and one daughter.
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