Actor Hwang Bo-ra voiced concerns about her son's developmental status.
On the 26th, a video titled "Hwang Bo-ra, who was about to give up parenting, finally called an expert?! | son parenting, parenting concerns, infant and toddler developmental assessment" was uploaded to the "Hwang Bora Boraiety" channel.
That day Hwang Bo-ra said, "Next week he turns 2, so this is the best time to do an infant and toddler checkup," adding, "The biggest problem now is when we try to go out he gets excited and whines and cries. I think we should ask about that. And not brushing his teeth," she confessed. Her husband also said, "Anyway, U-in has reached a stage where discipline is needed, so I'm curious about the best method," noting, "People are people, so there are many good comments, but when I see negative comments I worry as a parent."
Later Hwang Bo-ra invited a developmental specialist to their home for a consultation. Her husband said, "These days the thing U-in struggles with most is that in the morning when we say it's time to go to daycare, if we go out together he insists on being held," expressing concern. Hwang Bo-ra said, "He really likes the idea of going out, but from that moment he starts whining. And when we reach the door he says hold me. I don't understand that," she said.
When asked whether not reading many books affected his development, the specialist said, "Language is of course good to hear and understand through books and imagine the content, but that's not all. Communication is the most important thing in language. How much does he listen attentively to me, and later how well will this child convey my opinions to others? Considering that, U-in communicates well what he wants. What seems lacking is listening attentively to others, recognizing what situation it is, and stopping his own behavior. That is somewhat lacking," the specialist pointed out.
Her husband said, "He pretends not to hear. He clearly seems to know and hear, but he acts like he didn't," and the specialist said, "If discipline is difficult, you should focus on play. If you build a relationship by playing well with him, and when I'm having fun he learns what to do when he likes something—those practices lead to him listening better. Those practices stack up. That's when mom's words gain power. The best is if dad, grandmother and mom all share the same parenting philosophy and apply the same standards. Ultimately children learn the values and attitudes that their parents hold," the specialist explained.
After that, full play-based learning began. Hwang Bo-ra expressed concern watching her son U-in, whose concentration quickly fades. The specialist said, "It's okay. He plays, goes elsewhere, then when he sees the play again he comes back and plays," explaining. Hwang Bo-ra said, "Usually children persist, but his focused time is unusually short," and the specialist said, "Those kids see many things, so that's why. Their energy levels differ and there is a lot to see. Some people are multi-focused. Those people have keen perceptiveness of their surroundings. They don't see only one thing; when they look there they see this and that and everything. Understand it as that temperament," the specialist said.
Especially during the mealtime observation, U-in threw a severe tantrum, spitting out the rice and saliva in his mouth and throwing his spoon on the floor. The specialist advised, "Didn't he get up because he had finished eating? Didn't he say he wanted to come out? Before such behavior appears, ask, 'Did you finish eating? Do you want to get down?'"
Finally, after finishing toothbrushing discipline, the specialist said about U-in, "He is not a child with problems. He is within the normal developmental process, and if he practices adjusting in each situation, he can grow up well."
Meanwhile, Hwang Bo-ra married Cha Hyun-woo (real name Kim Young-hoon), the son of actor Kim Yong-gun and the brother of Ha Jung-woo, in 2022; Cha is a film producer and CEO of Walkhouse Company, and the couple have a son.
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