Yu Hyun-chul and Kim Seul-ki, a couple in their third year of remarriage, candidly discussed issues with female friends of their husband and conflicts of trust.
On the 19th broadcast of tvN STORY 'Lee Ho-seon's counseling room', the reality of remarried families, made more complicated by having children, was revealed. The couple Yu Hyun-chul and Kim Seul-ki, who met through I'm SOLO and Love after Divorce and went on to marry, appeared on the show to share their concerns.
The two, in their third year of remarriage, are each raising one child. Yu Hyun-chul is the father of a 12-year-old daughter, and Kim Seul-ki is raising an 11-year-old son in a blended family. On the day, Lee Ho-seon said, "It usually takes four to seven years to adapt to a blended family," and added, "The third year is when you go through the biggest storm. Even minor issues can grow into big resentments."
In particular, Yu Hyun-chul said his wife's way of relating to people is different from his. He said, "My wife is pretty and gets along well with people. Her standards for friendships are different," and "My wife can have male friends, but I can't accept that. I don't even understand the act of contacting them," he said. Listening to this, In Gyo-jin also said, "I also don't like male friends," expressing empathy.
Yu Hyun-chul mentioned an actual incident. He said, "I tried to get close to my wife's male friend when we first met, but I saw him pinch her cheek and interlock fingers with her—there was no sense of distance right in front of me," and "Seeing that made me feel bad." He added, "I also said I changed my phone number and that I hoped they would stop contacting each other." But Kim Seul-ki recalled, "I refused because changing my number was too much trouble," and said, "My husband felt very hurt."
The conflict did not end there. Yu Hyun-chul confessed, "I have even looked at my wife's phone," and Kim Seul-ki revealed how uncomfortable she felt. She said, "Looking at someone's phone is one of the things I hate most. I don't look at phones," and added, "Because communication with my brother was poor, I complained to acquaintances out of frustration and even spoke ill of my husband a bit." She continued, "A conversation I had with a friend was seen by my husband," and explained, "There was even content like, 'If it's going to be like this, it's better to live alone.'" Kim Seul-ki said, "From my husband's point of view, it probably felt like a line that shouldn't be crossed was crossed," and added, "After the messenger incident, trust was greatly shaken, and for about 10 months after that we hardly spoke."
Yu Hyun-chul also confessed, "In a past relationship I was hurt because of bad talk about me," and said, "That memory was so big that my wife's actions felt more like a betrayal." In response, Lee Ho-seon said, "Checking a phone creates greater anxiety," advising Yu Hyun-chul to work on rebuilding trust and telling Kim Seul-ki, "You need to keep an appropriate distance from friends of the opposite sex." He also suggested symbolic family processes, such as matching wedding rings, saying, "The stability of being an official family is important."
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