'Oh Eun-young report - family hell' introduced a 'sandwich family.'
On the 23rd, the MBC program 'Oh Eun-young report - family hell' was built around the story of a 'sandwich family.' 'Family hell' is a special that spotlights families who, because they are close, inflict deeper wounds on one another, and a total of five families meet viewers. The fourth family, the 'sandwich family,' told a story about an uncommunicative couple who do not talk to each other and their daughter caught in between, delivering both sorrow and sympathy to living rooms.
The daughter said, "I feel uncomfortable going home. Even when my husband says his father-in-law and mother-in-law want to see us, I refuse each time," and explained the reason she submitted the story directly, saying, "The biggest problem is that my parents do not communicate." In daily videos, the husband appears as a devoted partner who even cooks for his wife, but the wife does not respond at all to his attempts at conversation, which aroused curiosity. Moreover, the two who work together sometimes go to and from work separately, and at the office they do not exchange any conversation beyond work. As a result, the husband's resentment continued to build, and while the production crew had left, he once exploded his pent-up emotions at his wife.
When asked why she did not answer her husband's words, the wife said, "It's not something that necessarily has to be answered," and calmly added, "I've given up on my husband in many ways, and rather than the couple doing everything together, I think it's okay for each to live their own life. Do we really have to improve (our marital relationship)?" In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young diagnosed, "It is a bit delicate, but legally you are not divorced, yet emotionally you are in a divorced state," delivering a shock.
So why did the wife come to be in an emotionally divorced state? The husband admitted that his business failures were the cause of their discord. Once thriving enough to win reporter awards, the husband quit broadcasting reporting and went into business, but he experienced consecutive failures. However, the wife's view was different. She said, "Because my husband could not earn money economically, at least other family members could raise their voices. If my husband had succeeded in business, I would have had to obey everything he said," she revealed.
The wife tearfully appealed that she was ignored by her husband in her 30s. Even now, her husband's scolding tone continues. The wife confessed, "My husband deeply believes he is superior. I was hurt by remarks like, 'Your mother is not wise.'" Eventually she closed the door of her heart to her husband's insulting words and actions. She recalled that in her early 30s she kept divorce papers close to her chest and lived every day resolved to divorce. Hearing his wife's inner thoughts for the first time, the husband said, "On the contrary, it's a relief that it wasn't because of business failure," and added, "I realize there's a problem with my tone. I will try to change," pledging to change.
Dr. Oh Eun-young advised the husband to let go of pride and suggested the wife keep the small door of her heart open. The daughter said, "This time I learned for the first time how much guilt my father felt. I hope he lets go of that burden. I also hope my mother comfortably talks about what upsets her," she conveyed. The wife also hinted at the possibility of positive change, saying, "I had written divorce papers long ago, but sometimes I think it was good that I did not divorce. I think things will go well from now on."
[Photo] Broadcast capture
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