This is a review article written after watching the broadcast.
In 'These days parenting - My kid who is like a gem,' Dr. Oh Eun-young analyzed that the daughter showing separation anxiety symptoms is ultimately being influenced by her parents.
On the broadcast aired on the 23rd on Channel A's 'These days parenting - My kid who is like a gem,' the appearance of 'a third-grade daughter who has to stick to actor Jo Ji-hwan and his wife' was revealed.
That day in the studio, actor Jo Ji-hwan and influencer wife Park Hye-min appeared and shared their parenting worries. The couple's concern was about their third-grade daughter who cannot endure even 1 minute when separated from her mother or father. The couple carried deep worry over their child's constant inability to leave her parents' side.
Geumjjok-i's daily life was revealed. Even with a wall between them, Geumjjok-i seemed anxious and, while playing with friends, frequently went to the next room to see her mother.
Reacting to Geumjjok-i's behavior, Dr. Oh Eun-young explained, "Before children reach age 2, if someone is not in front of them they think that person does not exist in this world. Even if you let them hear a voice, it doesn't help." When Jo Ji-hwan's wife asked, "So it's at a 2-year-old level?" Dr. Oh Eun-young replied, "There is somewhat that aspect. You can think that she is anxious to that degree."
Also, Geumjjok-i had to have an X-ray to check an ingrown toenail but cried saying she didn't want to be separated from her mother. The mother, moved with pity, ultimately accompanied her and had the X-ray taken together, drawing attention.
However, the mother showed empathy to her daughter regarding accidents, safety and danger, but was cold about other matters. When Geumjjok-i cried because she didn't like her bangs at the hair salon, the mother lashed out, asking, "Are you obsessed with looks?"
Dr. Oh Eun-young said, "I understand how much the child would struggle when separated from me during the X-ray. I feel sorry for a separated child," and analyzed, "I also understand that the mother excessively worries about accidents, safety and danger. But she empathizes so much that she overprotects. So the mother handles things in advance."
She continued, "If the mother speaks coldly about the child building strength on her own, it interferes. There are also moments in anxious situations when she says, 'Why are you like that?' From the child's perspective, sometimes she is cold, and other times she sheds tears and shows empathy, so it must be confusing."
In particular, Dr. Oh Eun-young expressed concern, "Geumjjok-i speaks well, is smart and has good comprehension. Yet she clings to her parents like an infant. I think one of the causes of that difficulty is the part where the parents influence her."
Meanwhile, Geumjjok-i worried not only about separation anxiety but also excessive anxiety. Geumjjok-i refused to ride an old elevator, saying, "I don't want to ride. I think it will fall." In response, Jo Ji-hwan confessed, "Recently my daughter has been worrying even about international affairs, asking how inter-Korean relations will turn out and worrying whether I would be drafted if a war breaks out."
In fact, in conversations with her father, Geumjjok-i imagined and worried, saying, "What if the school collapses and a war breaks out?" and "Is this apartment safe? Won't the apartment collapse?" Regarding this, Dr. Oh Eun-young explained, "Geumjjok-i's anxiety arises from input information. It leads to a chain reaction," and said, "The explanations she hears continue to trigger more anxiety. Her anxiety begets more anxiety. She is still weak at calming her own anxiety."
Dr. Oh Eun-young asked Jo Ji-hwan's wife, "Are you also very worried?" The wife confessed, "I worry in advance about events that haven't happened. Only when every situation is perfect do I feel like doing something. I don't really like camping; it's uncomfortable, it has unpredictable variables, and I like safe situations," she said. Dr. Oh Eun-young said the mother's anxiety can be learned by the child.
[Photo] Screenshot of the broadcast of 'These days parenting - My kid who is like a gem'
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