'Sokpulisho Dongchimi' Ham Sowon and Jin Hua had a one-on-one conversation for the first time in two years since their divorce.
On the 27th episode of MBN 'Sokpulisho Dongchimi' (hereafter 'Dongchimi'), Ham Sowon, Jin Hua and their daughter Hyejeong appeared. Ham Sowon was a mother who treated Hyejeong with strict discipline and education, and Jin Hua was a father who appeared like an angel for the daughter he saw once every two weeks and spoils her with anything. Ham Sowon voiced complaints about this. Jin Hua bought Hyejeong unlimited snacks and even toys, starting from sweets.
In particular, Ham Sowon used a discipline of withholding side dishes every time Hyejeong did not keep a promise. Specialist Lee Gwangmin said, "I understand it, but it is not appropriate when Hyejeong is in the upper grades of elementary school. It can work in the lower grades. Now it is pressuring an area that must be kept, but she can earn the right to do what she likes. And what Ham Sowon requests is not an extremely difficult thing. It is something the child can handle with a little attention. Still, doing that with meals is a bit petty," he replied.
Noh Sa-yeon exclaimed in anger, "Can a mother do that with a meal she likes so much?" which drew laughter.
In response, Ham Sowon said, "Hyejeong is very quick-witted. She looks through the planner and if there is homework she doesn't want to do, she doesn't bring the planner. Since using the side-dish restriction discipline her habits have become very good. Instead, if she brings the planner well, I'll make her cream pasta that she likes," and added, "And I always tell her, 'It's okay if Hyejeong gets a zero. But you must do your homework. It's a promise with the teacher,'" explaining that the discipline is meant to help her fulfill her duties as a student rather than obsess over grades. All the panelists nodded in apparent understanding.
Ham Sowon and Jin Hua had a big fight over how to treat Hyejeong. Then the two went into a restaurant. It was their first meal alone together since the divorce. From spending habits to how to choose a menu, the two did not agree on anything. The panelists shook their heads as well.
However, after the divorce Jin Hua flew to Bangkok where Ham Sowon and their daughter Hyejeong live. Jin Hua said, "Of course I worried. Shouldn't I respect the choice of the person I love? If Sowon really wanted a divorce, rather than fighting like this every day, divorce might be the right choice," adding, "After the divorce I felt a lot of emotional pain. A friend found out about that wandering, and when you're struggling a friend told me to come to Bangkok, so I went to Bangkok."
Ham Sowon said, "I couldn't pass by you when you were having a hard time, and you came running to me and I held on to you, didn't you?" and said, "That's when I felt you needed me." Ham Sowon still spoke as if she pitied Jin Hua and could not let go.
Even Jin Hua said there was a 50-50 chance of reconciling with Ham Sowon. Specialist Lee Gwangmin said, "I am opposed to this couple reconciling. If they reconcile, Jin Hua will revert to his old ways. I think the start may not have been healthy. I describe some degree of Ham Sowon's control and some degree of Jin Hua's dependence as a pathological relationship," and added, "In any case, Jin Hua depended on Ham Sowon because of a fear of being abandoned. When one day his wife informed him of a divorce, the sadness of being abandoned must have surfaced."
He said, "If things calm down a bit and they can be in a relationship where they can give feedback, the possibility of reconciliation seems likely to increase."
After learning the former husband's true feelings, Ham Sowon said, "I'm sorry I pushed for the divorce without knowing your feelings. Thank you for always looking after Hyejeong and for coming to see her. From now on, even if there are some frustrating parts I will try to be more patient. Thank you for always being by our daughter's side," and showed a choked-up expression.
[photo credit] MBN 'Sokpulisho Dongchimi'
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