'Sokpuri Show Dongchimi' Ham So-won conveyed a changed heart after hearing her ex-husband Jin Hua's inner feelings.
On the 27th, MBN 'Sokpuri Show Dongchimi' (hereafter 'Dongchimi') featured the divorced family of Ham So-won and Jin Hua. Jin Hua was a loving father who visited Korea 2~3 times a month for his daughter Hye-jeong. Each time he came to Korea, he would arrange a room in Ham So-won's house and stay there.
Ham So-won and Jin Hua argued over how to treat their daughter Hye-jeong. Jin Hua told Hye-jeong to hang out with friends and eat what she wanted and made prepayments at places like snack bars. Ham So-won said, "No wonder! If she only eats what I give her she can't gain weight, but lately she's been getting chubbier," and exclaimed, "Our kid is growing like an animal," as she fumed. Ham So-won tended to cook by thoroughly calculating nutrients for the child's health.
Moreover, when Ham So-won saw Hye-jeong's planner she said, "Of the three homework assignments, do one now. You won't be able to finish them all tonight," and told Hye-jeong, who wanted to play, "Then choose 2 minutes, 3 minutes, or 5 minutes." When everyone was surprised, Dr. Lee Kwang-min said, "This is typical Ham So-won. Kids will get tired later anyway. If it's an hour, afterward the kids will be sleepy and hungry," saying Ham So-won's judgment was right.
Jin Hua, who had been silent, exploded at Hye-jeong's words. He had learned that whenever Ham So-won found that Hye-jeong didn't bring her planner or broke rules, she would withhold side dishes. Ham So-won said, "Hye-jeong is very quick-witted. She looks through the planner and if there's homework she doesn't want to do she won't bring the planner. After implementing the side-dish restriction discipline, her habits got very good. In return, if she brings the planner well, I'll make her favorite cream pasta," she said.
Ham So-won's parenting method was strictly the upright approach of the primary caregiver. But Jin Hua argued that children should not be under great stress and should be free to do what they want and eat what they want. Ham So-won said, "Jin Hua's parenting method is not helpful at all," calling it awful. Hanni said, "I understand Ham So-won. Compared with a father who comes occasionally, Ham So-won alone has to raise the child to be a full member of society, so she has no choice but to be strict," siding with Ham So-won.
The two argued as they entered a restaurant. It was their first meal after the divorce. From ordering food to conversation, the two bickered the whole time. Perhaps because their stomachs were a bit full, they reflected on the divorce. It was the first time they had talked about it since the divorce two years ago.
After so many fights and Ham So-won's notice of divorce, Jin Hua simply said he understood. But Jin Hua was actually afraid of being abandoned, and because he loved Ham So-won he accepted that this was right rather than fighting. Jin Hua recalled, "After the divorce I was very mentally strained. A friend learned about that wandering, and when I was having a hard time the friend told me I should go out and asked me to come to Bangkok, so I went to Bangkok," recalling meeting Ham So-won again after the divorce. Ham So-won said, "I couldn't ignore you when you were struggling, and you ran to me and I didn't hold you back," adding, "At that time I felt it. You need me."
Dr. Lee Kwang-min said, "The two are in a pathological relationship of controlling and depending on each other. In Ham So-won's tie of love and hate there is pity for Mr. Jin Hua. As a final piece of advice, Ham So-won has high anxiety. That's why she tries to control. To lower perfectionism a bit, try thinking 'it is what it is,'" and said, "If she calms down a bit and they can have a relationship that can give feedback, the possibility of reuniting would increase."
Jin Hua revealed his inner feelings, saying, "My desire to reconcile is 50-50." Ham So-won said, "It doesn't seem like the connection was completely cut, so maybe I tried too hard to cut it off. I reflected while watching the video," adding, "I'm sorry for rushing the divorce without knowing your feelings. I'm grateful you always watch out for Hye-jeong and that you come to see her. From now on, even if I feel a bit stifled I'll try to endure more. Thank you for always being by our daughter's side," she said, choking up.
[photo source] MBN 'Sokpuri Show Dongchimi'
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