S.E.S. alumnus and actress Eugene revealed she struggled with lethargy during pregnancy.
On the 26th, a video titled "Why did we end up crying while counseling worries? (T&F couple's counseling)" was uploaded to the "Eugene VS Ki Tae-young" channel.
That day, Eugene and Ki Tae-young took time to listen to subscribers' concerns and offer direct counseling. In the midst of that, a story from a housewife feeling lethargic in her fifth year of parenting was revealed, and upon hearing it Eugene began, "If the young child had the first in 2021 and the second in 2023, then are they two years old? Then you can send them to a daycare. If they're three, you can send them. It's the age to start social life."
Ki Tae-young said, "This is postpartum depression. But this can't be helped. I really understand this because we've raised kids. Right now the husband will be working. It's lone parenting. I want to applaud that. Lone parenting alone isn't easy. I'm not saying this to look good, but mothers who single-handedly raise their children deserve recognition. You must acknowledge it unconditionally."
He advised, "The husband must be struggling too. Being stressed and having to tolerate people is stressful, and then coming home and saying, 'I'm stressed, so you do this too' is not okay. Watching a child is really hard. It's emotionally and physically exhausting work. Husbands should definitely hear this. Let her have at least one full day alone. Go out and get a massage, get skincare treatments."
Eugene also advised, "Whether it's Saturday or Sunday on the weekend, even if the husband is tired he should watch the child for at least one day on the weekend," and Ki Tae-young said, "Otherwise the mother will really become exhausted. If you truly love your wife, give her emotional healing so she doesn't get sick. Just saying 'you really worked hard' really..." He choked up and showed a moment, saying, "Ah, I'm about to cry."
With moist eyes, Ki Tae-young emphasized, "Really. This is a very important issue. Watching a child is not an easy task. Doing housework while watching a child." Eugene added, "But besides that, this person seems to have some kind of depression where everything has become lethargic. I experienced that when I was pregnant. My morning sickness was so bad that lethargy came and I would cry even just sitting. I really felt like sinking into the ground. I'm someone who really likes doing things. Even if I were alone at home for a week, I'd have lots to do. But when I was pregnant I didn't want to do anything. I even didn't want to watch TV. That was due to hormonal effects for me, but this person seems exhausted," she said with sympathy.
Ki Tae-young suggested, "Is there not a nearby mom in the same situation? Find a mom to do shared childcare with, so you can vent about husbands and stress and talk a bit while finding something you can do together."
To that, Eugene said, "Right. Do that and go out with the child. You can manage caring for one child. Places like kiddie cafes these days also watch the kids when you go. Even just chatting with the person you do shared childcare with can relieve some stress. Maybe she hasn't tried that," and Ki Tae-young advised, "If your personality isn't suited to this or the situation doesn't allow it, I don't know, but you have to find some method nonetheless." Eugene also urged, "There may be no such person. Then you have to find someone in the neighborhood or a friend—someone to do childcare with."
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