A "acting couple" appeared on O Eun-young Report: marriage hell.
On the night of the 3rd at 10:50 p.m., MBC's O Eun-young Report: marriage hell (shortened to "marriage hell") featured the story of a husband who has repeatedly run away for 14 years and the wife who waits for him in anxiety, an "acting couple."
The "acting couple" wife visited Dr. O Eun-young saying she was in a "heartbreaking state" over her husband's repeated runaways. The husband's running away, which began in their newlywed days when their first child was a baby, has repeated without pause for 14 years. She said he had been away from home for more than a month and a half at times, and that he had once been led home by the police while heavily intoxicated, which shocked viewers. The wife asks the husband the reason for his running away, but the husband responds only with silence, making the wife feel even more anxious and frustrated.
The husband's repeated running away stemmed from alcohol. The husband, who works in piping installation and demolition sites, would drink with coworkers to relieve stress after physically exhausting days, and his habit of drinking and sleeping at jjimjilbang spas led to overnight absences. The husband boldly confessed, "At first it was a level of sleeping out, but it became bolder. He goes out saying, 'Try f---ing it,'" plunging the studio into silence.
The husband's drunken state in the video the wife provided to producers was at a level difficult to air. Seeing this, the husband was also unable to hide his shock and confessed that his mother and uncle had also struggled with alcohol problems. Dr. O Eun-young firmly advised abstinence, saying, "Alcohol use disorder due to genetics means you must not have even a drop. Reducing drinking is meaningless. You must abstain."
So what is the real reason the "acting couple" husband repeats running away whenever he drinks? Dr. O Eun-young focused on the couple's conversations, detecting a pattern of the wife interrogating and criticizing the husband. She noted, "I understand the wife's painful feelings, but she tends to push too hard in everything."
In response to this critique, the wife defended herself, saying, "It may sound like an excuse, but I can't have a conversation with my husband," and Dr. O Eun-young replayed observation footage and repeatedly explained, one by one, problems with their communication style. While the husband's alcohol problem is clearly wrong, if the wife keeps dwelling on the past and only confronting his mistakes, the problem will continue. Furthermore, she emphasized that the "acting couple" husband is slow to respond, so they should ask questions and wait for answers.
The "acting couple" husband also attracted attention by confessing for the first time the real reason he ran away. The husband said, "When I keep hearing my wife's words, it builds up, explodes, and leads to running away. It hurts when my wife makes me feel like an inferior. Life is hard, and I sometimes want to be alone for a few days without thinking about anything. As the periods of running away lengthen, I sometimes think that rather than live like this, maybe I shouldn't live at all."
That day Dr. O Eun-young advised the anxious, exhausted wife to install a location-tracking application with the husband's consent to reduce obsession and anxiety. She recommended that the husband receive treatment for alcohol addiction.
The couple sought out Dr. O Eun-young with the mindset that this was their last chance. That day the two daughters of the "acting couple" expressed a small wish to live an ordinary, happy life like other children. Facing their children's wishes, the "acting couple" sincerely reflected on their own immaturity. Holding each other's hands, they affirmed their intention to change, saying, "Thank you for trying this far," leaving viewers with a deep aftertaste and a sense of relief.<
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