Star chef Choi Hyun-seok's daughter Choi Yeon-su said her father strongly opposed her marriage to Dickpunks' Kim Tae-hyun, who is 12 years older.
On Oct. 17, Choi Yeon-su posted on her social account, "I get a lot of DMs about dating and marriage counseling, so I'll do my best sincerely," and added, "There are often people who say on DMs that preparing for marriage is hard or that they have dating concerns. I'm not an expert, but I'll at least listen. Please write them down!!"
Afterward, Choi Yeon-su offered advice based on her own thoughts about dating and marriage concerns sent by followers. She empathized with someone who said, "We have less than two months until the wedding, but lately I've been arguing with my dad all the time and my dad is always prickly," saying, "Gosh, that must be really upsetting. We raised our daughter with so much care, and when she said she was getting married, my parents were very upset too."
She went on, "I also have a hot temper, so when there's trouble I get angry and fight and regret it a lot. Even if I try not to, preparing for marriage makes me sensitive, so if something seems incompatible I get more stressed than usual and trouble happens. Not every time, but after emotions settle I write a message explaining how I feel, apologize, try to put the spilled water back into the cup... I cry while writing, then argue again and repeat," she confessed.
When someone asked, "You're in an age-gap couple like Yeon-su; how did you decide to get married? The girlfriend didn't seem to want it," Choi Yeon-su said, "Honestly, it's natural not to want to get married, right? If someone who is a decade older kept pushing marriage, I'd probably have run away too. That's why we dated for five and a half years. I was actually the one who first brought up marriage to my boyfriend! No, he treated me so well. On his days off he always picked me up after work and took me home. He matched all my hobbies, took me wherever I wanted to eat. On his days off he wouldn't let me stay still; he'd drag me on trips and show me things. He made me feel like a princess, so I decided to marry him," she said.
She added, "What I value most is that even when our parents opposed it and adults called us thieves or worse, and there were harsh comments, insults and outrageous things, he didn't get upset or complain. He understood that opposition is natural and accepted it. He really comforted me when I was upset about it," and emphasized, "In short, don't pester them to marry you; for now, treat them well. In my experience and among people I know, relationships with a big age gap dissolved when the older side pressured them to marry."
In response to a question asking, "I'm in a relationship with a nine-year age difference. I love him so much and want to marry him, but my father hates him so much that I couldn't say more. Do you have any tips on how to persuade him?" Choi Yeon-su replied honestly, "Frankly, their opposition is understandable, right? I was so upset when I was opposed, but because I completely understood my parents' position, I had nothing to say and got more heated and combative. It's an unfilial legend."
She said, "I wanted to get married around our second year together, but of course that was rejected. We fought fiercely, and I realized fighting wouldn't work, so I persuaded them slowly. He's truly a good person. And my boyfriend treated me remarkably well. People asked, 'They oppose it? Aren't your parents being mean?' I never said that. You have no choice but to take time and keep persuading until your parents accept it."
Meanwhile, Choi Yeon-su married Dickpunks' Kim Tae-hyun on Sept. 21.
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