Broadcaster Ham So-won mentioned her ex-husband Jin Hua after her ex-boyfriend, a Chinese tycoon.
Ham So-won said on the 6th, "Activities in China, before marriage. I arrived in China in 2008 and several years passed … I was so busy in China with activities in drama and movies, advertising, and events. 1 year, 2 years .. 3 years, 4 years .. now that I've gained some leisure, Hanni my age 36 37 ? I had never thought I was special as an entertainer and just lived busily, and when I turned 37 my thinking gradually changed," she said.
She continued, "Bigger opportunities, better movies, dramas, more pay were waiting for me, but I thought that forming a family and having a child would have no other opportunity if not now. And I dreamed of a happy family I had never had. So I refused many things. At that time I agreed with my Chinese manager to work really about once a year and finish, and the rest of my life would be efforts to have my child after marriage! Exercise and eating foods with beans and seaweed once a week, not touching alcohol, not even smelling anyone who smoked! I prepared my body and got ready for marriage!" she recalled.
She then said, "When the widely publicized relationship ended I was 39. I felt as if the world was ending. I had achieved everything in life, but I realized there were things I couldn't, and I was angry. I had always worked hard and even dated hard, but when results didn't come I was angry. Wherever I walked in Beijing it was places we went together; even if I tried to meet a new man there was nowhere his touch hadn't reached."
She also said, "At 41, aside from the worry that I might not be able to have a child, I had no material or professional concerns. So I enjoyed having fun with friends and wandering freely, relishing the happiness of being single and gradually giving up on marriage but deciding I must at least have a child. At that time, whenever I came to Korea I was freezing my eggs… I resolved that I would not meet any men unless he was the man I would marry … that period when I was turning from 41 to 42."
She then mentioned her ex-husband Jin Hua that day. She recalled, "During the day we went around looking at land and in the evenings after a massage we ate; there were times I spent every day with friends. At that time there wasn't yet the 'one-million-point happiness' that Hye-jung's smile now gives, but it was a period when I enjoyed the advantages of a free and leisurely single life."
Afterward, Ham So-won said she first got in touch with her current husband Jin Hua through an invitation to an acquaintance's birthday party. She said, "The name on the profile was 'Jin Hua,' which looked Korean. When I asked if he was Korean he said he was Chinese. At that time I wasn't interested in men and had given up on marriage. I was 41 and felt that if I dated and married my age would quickly become 43 or 45 and it would be hard to have children, so I had emptied my mind."
But Ham So-won said she felt a different certainty from Jin Hua: "I was 120% sure that this man could do it. My goodness… I felt I could get married," she recalled about deciding to marry. She said, "My dating news first broke in China, and afterward we quietly completed our marriage registration. Many broadcasts offered casting, and through The Taste of Wife we revealed our dating and marriage story," mentioning the marriage process.
Three months after the wedding Ham So-won became pregnant with her first child Hye-jung and continued broadcasting and giving birth at the same time. She said, "During the three years of The Taste of Wife filming, I couldn't refuse the flood of work: filming, dating program MC, insurance program MC, home shopping, even variety show panel. Because people liked my activities in Korea, I worked even harder out of gratitude."
She also confessed that she underwent in vitro fertilization to have a second child. Ham So-won said, "Preparing for home shopping at 4 a.m., a 7 a.m. live broadcast, and after the 11 a.m. live broadcast filming The Taste of Wife, I headed back to home shopping at midnight. When I got home I could only sleep three hours. Meanwhile I founded a company and even became ambitious about business."
She added frankly, "The world is unpredictable. When one problem is solved another arises, and things that seem impossible sometimes smoothly resolve, while matters that seemed like no problem strangely become big problems. I still don't know why life flows that way, why after crossing one mountain there's an even higher mountain."
Ham So-won concluded by saying, "After marrying Jin Hua from a good family, having a child, having good in-laws, and success in broadcasting and business, I was confronted with another limit."
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