Broadcaster Ham So-won opened up about her feelings when she broke up after a three-year relationship with a Chinese tycoon.
Ham So-won said on the 6th, China activities, before marriage. I arrived in China in 2008 and a few years passed … So I spent busy days in China with activities in drama and film, advertisements and events. 1 year 2 years ..3 years 4 years ..now that I have some leeway, my age 36 37 ? I never thought I was special because I was a celebrity and just lived busily, and when I turned 37 my thoughts gradually changed."
She continued, There were bigger opportunities for me, better movies, drama and more pay waiting, but I thought that forming a family and having a child would have no other chance if not now. And I dreamed of a happy family I had never had before. So I refused many things. At the time I and my Chinese manager really decided to finish by working about once a year and spend the rest of my life trying to have my child, a second generation after marriage! Exercise and eating foods with beans and seaweed once a week, not touching alcohol, not even smelling anyone smoking! I took care of my body and prepared for marriage! she recalled.
She said, When the widely publicized relationship ended I was 39 and I felt like the world was ending. I had achieved everything in life without failure, but realizing there were things I couldn't do made me angry. I worked hard at everything, and I worked that hard at the relationship too, so when the outcome didn't come I was angry. Wherever I went in Beijing, it was a place we used to go together; there was nowhere his touch did not reach when I tried to meet a new man.
Also, I was 41 and apart from the worry that I might not be able to have a child in my heart, I had no material or work-related worries. So I enjoyed fun times with friends and wandered freely, savoring the happiness of being single and gradually giving up on marriage but thinking I must at least have a child. At that time, whenever I came to Korea I was freezing my eggs … I decided I would either marry the man I would marry or not meet any man at all … that period when I was turning from 41 to 42, she added.
Meanwhile, Ham So-won married Jin Hua, a Chinese man 18 years her junior, in 2018 and had a daughter, Hye-jeong, but they divorced in 2022. She has since been raising her daughter alone and drew attention by sharing moments of reuniting with her ex-husband on social media.
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I arrived in China in 2008 and a few years passed …
So I spent busy days in China with activities in drama and film, advertisements and events
1 year 2 years ..3 years 4 years ..now that I have some leeway, my age 36 37 ?
I never thought I was special because I was a celebrity and just lived busily, and when I turned 37 my thoughts gradually changed
There were bigger opportunities for me, better movies, drama and more pay waiting, but I thought that forming a family and having a child would have no other chance if not now. And I dreamed of a happy family I had never had before
So I refused many things. At the time I and my Chinese manager really decided to finish by working about once a year and spend the rest of my life trying to have my child, a second generation after marriage!
Exercise and eating foods with beans and seaweed once a week, not touching alcohol, not even smelling anyone smoking!
I took care of my body and prepared for marriage!
When the widely publicized relationship ended I was 39 and I felt like the world was ending. I had achieved everything in life without failure, but realizing there were things I couldn't do made me angry
I worked hard at everything, and I worked that hard at the relationship too
When the outcome didn't come I was angry.
Wherever I went in Beijing, it was a place we used to go together
There was nowhere his touch did not reach when I tried to meet a new man
I slowly prepared to leave. If I was going to break up I would break up completely; I wanted to give the pain of not seeing me in the world. I will leave
I always think this — if they can't see me, that's the punishment!
The reason is that when I think someone is my person I really try hard. Maybe that's why whoever I meet, the people I dated miss me the most; I love and work without regret
I lived like that. At work, whenever possible I took on the hard tasks myself; I lived like that
In love I also yield, endure and love a lot because they are my people, so I have no regrets when people or jobs leave
Because when I break up or when I quit a job, I do everything I can do; having done it all, I accept the rest as heaven's will. This is how I live
While wandering wondering where to move
Hong Kong, Macau, Shenzhen, Guangzhou were all close, good for playing and enjoying
I wandered those four good cities wondering where to live?
I was 41 and apart from the worry that I might not be able to have a child in my heart, I had no material or work-related worries
So I enjoyed fun times with friends and wandered freely, savoring the happiness of being single and gradually giving up on marriage but thinking I must at least have a child
So whenever I came to Korea I was freezing my eggs at that time ..
I decided I would either marry the man I would marry or not meet any man at all …
That period when I was turning from 41 to 42
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