This is a review article written after watching the broadcast.
On 'Golden Child, My Kid' Geumjok, who is living in seclusion on the veranda, expressed hostility toward his father and even called the police.
On the 3rd broadcast of Channel A's 'Parenting These Days - Golden Child, My Kid,' the story of a sixth-grade son who entered seclusion while intensely disliking his father was revealed, and scenes showed Geumjok expressing hatred toward his father.
That day, Geumjok, who had refused to go to school for a month, had not showered and was living in seclusion on the veranda, hiding under the blanket throughout the video and not coming out. When Geumjok did come into the living room, his father cautiously approached while gauging his reaction, but Geumjok remained silent and ignored him.
At that moment Geumjok shouted in informal speech, "I don't want to talk to you." Angry at his son's informal speech, the father grabbed Geumjok and said, "Who calls their father 'you'?" but Geumjok retorted, "It's because of you that I'm like this. Who hits their child?"
Geumjok also vented his long-held frustration, saying, "You always hit and get angry. Just because I'm your child, do you get to do whatever you want? You're always right, aren't you? You think you're the center of the world and I don't want to talk to you. Go away."
The father admitted about his son's remarks, "Honestly, I was very strict in disciplining the child. As I did that, I think the child became afraid. There were times I hit his head with my hand or struck his chest with my fist. He never directly said he disliked it. I don't understand him saying I hit him."
But the mother said, "Didn't you say the child thought he was the center of the world? I thought the same. I was surprised the child thought the same way," and when asked "why do you think that?" she explained, "When I talk with him, he steers the conversation to prove he's right. It ends only when it goes that way. I feel it's pointless to talk because he'll do as he pleases anyway. I'm not eager to talk, so I stop speaking."
Above all, on that day Geumjok refused filming and showed aggressive behavior toward his mother. The father went into the room to stop it, and Geumjok reacted with resistance. In a desperate struggle, Geumjok eventually knocked his father down. Then, after fleeing to the room, Geumjok immediately reported his father to the police, saying, "My father hit me with his fist and pinned me down with his body."
A short time later, the police came to the house, and Geumjok told the officers, "My father pinned me down so I couldn't move my hands and feet. My arms and shoulders hurt. I hope my father doesn't do bad things to me. I hope my father never comes home," expressing hostility toward his father.
Dr. Oh Eun-young said, "In terms of emotions, it gives a lot of negative impact and if experienced repeatedly it becomes trauma," noting, "From the father's perspective it may be discipline, but when the child receives it, it is excessive control, restraint, and pressure."
She added, "If it repeats, it becomes a kind of trauma. Ultimately these things become triggers. Even just the father coming nearby can cause them to react that way or startle and avoid. So this really needs relationship repair. It's not a matter of liking or disliking but an important issue for the formation of this child's identity and self-image," she worried.
Again hiding on the veranda, Geumjok shouted, "Is it right to treat a child like this? Shouldn't you get a divorce? Who crushes their child like that?" and yelled, "Have you been hitting me and insulting me since long ago?" Startled, the mother asked, "Did your father do that? Did your father hit you and do that? Then why didn't you tell me?" and Geumjok said, "It's because my father does XX to me."
The embarrassed father hurriedly apologized, but Geumjok refused to accept it, showing extreme rejection, saying, "Don't say things you don't mean." The mother comforted him, saying, "That's why it's an illness. He's kept enduring it. I'm sorry. I should have helped but I didn't know," and tried to soothe him.
Dr. Oh Eun-young analyzed Geumjok's seclusion, saying, "When Geumjok sees himself unable to self-regulate, he may feel that he is becoming the very father he hates. Besides being withdrawn from helplessness, he may avoid going out because he hates his own behavior."
Meanwhile, after the production team's efforts, Geumjok opened up after four days and revealed his feelings by text. He said it was uncomfortable outside the blanket and added, "Because of my father. My father doesn't like me. He yells at me, hits me and insults me. I was very scared." He explained the reason he had endured so far as "I was afraid my mother would be upset if she knew," but confessed, "Actually I want my mother to help. I'm so exhausted now. I want to change too, but it's hard," eliciting sympathy.
[Photo] Screen capture from 'Parenting These Days - Golden Child, My Kid' broadcast
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