This is a review article written after watching the broadcast.
Dr. Oh Eun-young of 'My Golden Child' declared to the Geumjjok family "separate residence from the grandmother."
The second letter of 'My second-year middle school son who uses extreme language, could it be adolescent depression?' was revealed on the 26th broadcast of Channel A 'Parenting These Days - My Golden Child.'
That day the grandmother called the father out during a meal and poured out negative feelings about Geumjjok's biological mother. She even badmouthed the mother, and Geumjjok, who overheard secretly, was caught recording. Enraged, the grandmother scolded, "This is too much. Don't live like that."
In a situation where the father and grandmother teamed up to shower Geumjjok with criticism, Dr. Oh Eun-young pointed out, "Both sides speak negatively about the child's mother and send the message 'so you're not a good person either.' If this relationship continues, it becomes gaslighting," adding, "If this is repeated, it's emotional abuse."
The grandmother also blamed the daughter-in-law, saying, "I'm unlucky to have a daughter-in-law. You don't have luck with your wife." The father nodded in agreement. Dr. Oh Eun-young said, "You need to return to the father's position rather than the son's," and also delivered a blunt remark, "He looks like a mama's boy."
Meanwhile, in the moving car the grandmother shouted "be quiet" when Geumjjok's younger siblings were noisy. Then the second child accidentally elbowed the youngest, causing him to cry, and the grandmother even struck him, saying "I told you not to do that," shocking everyone.
The video was eventually set to private, and the father, who had seen it, remained still and even egged on by saying, "Go beat mom up, just do it," adding to the shock. The two even complained to the crying children that they themselves were having a harder time.
Watching this, Dr. Oh Eun-young said, "Overall, I think the family's dynamics have many problems. No one has the right to hit another person. It's also somewhat sadistic," criticizing the situation.
She added, "The children are enjoying themselves. If you suddenly slap them, the other person can't predict it at all, so the children get confused about whether this is punishment. Moreover, the pleasant feeling quickly turns into fear, and they won't be able to cope with the emotional turmoil. No matter what reason the grandmother has, it cannot be justified," conveying the seriousness.
In a private interview, Geumjjok confessed, "The grandmother makes things hard. The grandmother insults my mother. Why does she insult my mother? It's okay to insult me, but insulting my mother is hard," he said. He added, "I should have done better; I'm sorry I couldn't do better. I'll do better next time," evoking sympathy.
Afterward, Dr. Oh Eun-young strongly told Geumjjok's father, "Move out from your mother." The flustered father said, "My mother doesn't have many close people," and Dr. Oh replied, "So what?"
The father worried that the grandmother might be lonely. Dr. Oh Eun-young emphasized separating from the grandmother, saying, "Compared with the pain and wounds the children receive from the grandmother's violence and sadistic attitude, the fact that your mother is lonely and bored is nothing. It's very regrettable that you can't distinguish between degrees even in this situation."
[Photo] 'Parenting These Days - My Golden Child' broadcast screen capture
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