A child from The Golden Child who had made extreme remarks truly confessed his inner feelings.
On the 19th episode of Channel A's These Days Parenting - The Golden Child, Dr. Oh Eun-young met a second-year middle school student showing symptoms of adolescent depression.
That day a single dad raising three siblings appeared in the studio. The father confessed his worries that the Golden Child not only says extreme things but is living withdrawn.
Observing the Golden Child's behavior closely, Dr. Oh Eun-young said, Our Golden Child looks sad in the face. Tears seem like they could well up at any moment. His voice is very quiet. He is in a state of very low confidence, and she labeled it "adolescent depression."
In the footage, the Golden Child told his father I want to die and I don't want to live, and after the father's nagging he finally acted out in a shocking way. Seeing this, Dr. Oh Eun-young said, Especially adolescence is a period when impulsiveness increases more than at any other time in a person's life. Thoughts can turn into actions immediately, and if luck is bad something serious can happen. So he is currently in a state with a lot of difficulty, she worried.
Meanwhile, the Golden Child's inner feelings were revealed. When asked to introduce himself, the Golden Child shook his head and refused, saying I can't. When asked why, he said I've never properly introduced myself even once and confessed, I'm a mess, how could I introduce myself.
Calling himself a mess, the Golden Child said, When I'm around my dad and grandmother fight and my mom too, and when he said "mom" he could not continue speaking. When asked what he was to his family, the Golden Child also said, I'm just someone with poison.
Especially about why he uses extreme words, the Golden Child said, If I weren't here it feels like they'd somehow live better, at first they'd be sad, right? But over time they'd probably be happy that I'm gone. If I'm not there they wouldn't fight and they'd live well, which drew pity.
But there was a hidden sincerity behind the Golden Child's extreme words. Asked about his wish he said I want to live and confessed, Because I miss them: grandmother, dad, mom, our whole family. The father, realizing the Golden Child's true feelings, broke down in tears, and Dr. Oh Eun-young also cried.
Dr. Oh Eun-young advised the father, There is something you must never say from now on. You must not say, "You are so hard to raise I can't do it." Those words will hurt the child. Not saying that alone will help.
Later Dr. Oh Eun-young had an emergency meeting with the Golden Child. She asked cautiously, I'm most curious what is the hardest thing for you. What is the most difficult? When he could not easily speak, she asked, Are you very sad? and the Golden Child answered yes and choked up.
Then Dr. Oh Eun-young asked, When do you feel this desire to die the most? and the Golden Child said, When I hear things like "I can't raise you," I feel useless.
Dr. Oh Eun-young comforted him, Hearing words like that would make anyone's heart hurt. That must be very painful, and the Golden Child broke down in tears he had been holding back.
[Photo] Screenshot from These Days Parenting - The Golden Child
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