The kid from "My Precious Child" stayed stuck in past memories and confessed he wanted to live with his mother and father, drawing sympathy.
On the 19th episode of Channel A's "These Days Parenting - My Precious Child," Dr. Oh Eun-young was shown diagnosing the second-year middle schooler as having adolescent depression.
That day the father, after an episode of extreme behavior, asked the child, "Did I do anything wrong to you? To be honest, I haven't done anything wrong to you. Do you know how much money has been spent on you up to now?" The child closed his eyes and refused to communicate again, and the father lamented, "It's because of you that I'm struggling." The child replied, "Don't worry about me," and the angry father shouted, "Then go to your mother if you want to go!"
The child sent a text to his mother on the spot saying "I'll go to my mother," and when the father and grandmother scolded him he responded, "You told me to go to my mother." In the end, father and child faced off with emotions instead of holding a proper conversation.
In the studio the father said he had sent the child to the biological mother after the divorce, then lived with the child and remarried, and that the biological mother remarried and brought the child back when he was 10. Hearing this, Hong Hyun-hee asked, "Were you serious about telling him to go to his mother?" The father replied, "I absolutely want to live with him. I want to take responsibility to the end."
Dr. Oh Eun-young asked, "The child is being moved around like luggage. In such cases the child understands the parents' circumstances but in his heart wouldn't he feel, 'Apparently I'm not very precious or the most important to my mom and dad'?
Dr. Oh also said sharply, "But he didn't hit anyone and he didn't break the law, so if you say 'Go to your mother,' what's going to happen to him?" The father reflected, "I think it must be very hard."
Meanwhile, the child reunited with his mother, who had been living elsewhere with the father. The child smiled at the rare reunion, and the mother, choking up about the child's extreme behavior, asked, "Did you really want to do that? If you had really done that then..." and became tearful.
The mother said, "If you're having a hard time, tell me," and the child confessed, "I want to go back to how it was before. In that video, the train with mom..." Upon hearing that, the mother burst into tears. It turned out the child was recalling a time when, as a young child, he happily rode a train at a kids' cafe with his mother and father. Dr. Oh said, "He must have been really lonely," her eyes reddening.
The child is trapped living in an irretrievable past. Dr. Oh said, "It seems he really longs for the times he was loved," and the mother pleaded, "Let's make a promise, tell me what's on your mind."
After hesitating for a long time, the child confessed, "Let's live together. Let's all live together with Dad." Later, while having a pleasant time with his mother who visited his room, the child mustered the courage to express a wish, saying, "Go tomorrow. Don't go today, stay one night and then go."
Dr. Oh told the father of the child, "There are many parts you need to discuss deeply," and said, "Warm love and attention are needed. Why would he long for that after watching the video? Don't you show affection? Watching this, he sees there was a time when my mom and dad doted on me and loved me. He is holding on to that."
She went on, "Then the child afterward has few memories of 'my parents love me.' In situations like this the child seems to feel a lot of deprivation. At least the mother communicates emotionally. So the child even smiles when he sees his mother. When his heart is troubled, he thinks of his mother."
On the other hand, the father expressed love and attention by scolding with 'You're the problem.' Dr. Oh criticized, "Your grades aren't good and you say, 'Do you know how much money has gone into this?' In some cases you might think you couldn't raise him. I'm very curious why you express it that way."
[Photo] Screenshot from "These Days Parenting - My Precious Child" broadcast
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