'My precious child' Jung Joo-ri expressed concern over her fourth son's abnormal behavior.
On the Dec. 12 episode of Channel A's My Modern Parenting - My Precious Child, the story "Comedian Jung Joo-ri's battle parenting of five sons" was revealed, and the fourth son's abnormal behavior was shown.
In the episode, Jung Joo-ri, who has entered her 10th year of marriage, said she decided to appear to have her parenting of five sons evaluated.
In the subsequent observation footage, when the fourth son's whining started a battle to get him to school, Jung Joo-ri struggled, using a surefire placation tactic like playing a Pororo video. After continued failures, an hour passed and they were ultimately 30 minutes late, and Jung Joo-ri asked AI for help before reaching a dramatic agreement with a toy turtle and set off for school. Watching this, psychologist Oh Eun-young praised her, saying "you don't use tiger parenting," but also pointed out, "the most important thing is missing. There's no talk about having to go. That's the core," noting there was no core teaching of "must keep school arrival time."
Meanwhile, the fourth son surprised everyone by showing violent behavior, such as hitting his second older brother who accidentally dropped a book and even taking out his anger on the third brother who was just sitting still. Jung Joo-ri lamented, "If the eldest had been like the fourth, it would have been hard. It's overwhelming to handle just the fourth alone."
Oh Eun-young said, "The important point is that when raising children you must scold the child when necessary and set appropriate refusals. You must let them experience healthy frustration," adding, "You must say no when something is not allowed. If they grow up without experiencing such healthy frustration, they may always want to remain in an extremely comfortable state."
Regarding the fourth son's temperament, Oh Eun-young analyzed, "The first, second and third are relatively mild in temperament, but the fourth is a difficult temperament. He has a lot of energy, is very active, wakes up quickly if his sleep is even slightly uncomfortable, and is stubborn. His likes and dislikes are therefore very clear."
She added, "The fourth is different from the first, second and third. If you raise the fourth the same way you did the first three, it won't work well. You have to understand the fourth's temperament."
But in the footage, Jung Joo-ri couldn't break the fourth son's stubbornness and let him eat in the master bedroom. When the aunt prevented him from watching TV, the fourth began to show abnormal behaviors such as putting his fingers in his mouth or licking his own hand.
The fourth even licked a staff member's hand, according to the production team. Jung Joo-ri worried, "Could the fourth be regressing developmentally since the baby sibling arrived? He bites the baby's pacifier and, unlike at daycare, at home he sometimes looks for diapers."
Oh Eun-young criticized, "The fourth doesn't readily accept change. He naturally wants to boss around the younger ones and act like a baby to get affection from his mother. The difference is whether you leave it as is or set directions so the child can digest it well. But Jung Joo-ri tends to just neglect it."
She continued, "In the earlier eating situation, you must firmly say it's not allowed rather than 'it's only until four.' You have to teach clear principles and standards."
She also commented on the fourth son's abnormal behavior, saying, "The child is more anxious than expected. He engages in sensory-seeking behavior to calm his anxiety. Although he throws tantrums to get affection, he is anxious."
[Photo] Screenshot from My Modern Parenting - My Precious Child
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