"Drinking, smoking, running away from home, theft." A father in his 40s was devastated by his third-grade middle school daughter's shocking 'deviance grand slam.' Behind his daughter's delinquency were the parents' divorce, feelings of loss, and the father's deadly parenting style under the guise of 'doing it for the daughter.' In response to the father's desperate plea, Seo Jang-hoon remarked, "If something happens, you need to scold them; you can't give them what they want."
On the 28th, KBS Joy's 'Ask Us Anything Fortune Teller' depicted Joo Sang-chul, a father in his 40s, struggling with his third-grade daughter's serious delinquency.
The message sender, Joo Sang-chul, is suffering due to his third-grade daughter's serious delinquency. Not only is she late and absent from school, but she also drinks, smokes, and has run away from home, completely breaking her father's heart. When she goes out, she sleeps on the streets and has even obtained cigarettes through adults to smoke at home.
The shocking delinquency did not stop there. His daughter entered her boyfriend's house without permission to sleep, and despite being sent to a children's shelter, she ran away after just one day, committing crimes such as stealing clothes. She also committed theft of perfume from an internet café, scissors from a stationery shop, and even used these items to steal a motorcycle, leaving Joo Sang-chul utterly devastated through her guilt-free actions. Seo Jang-hoon pointed out the seriousness of the situation, saying, "At this point, it's just living recklessly. She isn't listening to anyone and has reached a level of uncontrollability."
The background of his daughter's severe delinquency lies in the family history of Joo Sang-chul, who divorced his wife two and a half years ago. Joo Sang-chul mentioned, "Mom comforted her, and with her suddenly gone, I think it's gotten worse," suggesting that the absence of her mother significantly affected his daughter. As a result, the poor relationships he had with peers since elementary school worsened after entering middle school, and her delinquency escalated as she hung out with friends met through social media.
When Joo Sang-chul first learned of his daughter's delinquency, he tried to scold and discipline her, even resorting to hitting, but he always regretted it afterward. He made every effort to gain his daughter's affection by going camping together and giving her pocket money, but that effect was only temporary. Joo Sang-chul sighed, saying, "I did everything my daughter wanted. But that was just then," realizing too late that giving in to her demands only encouraged a vicious cycle of delinquency.
During the process of taking his daughter, who was causing a disturbance at the police station, he was misunderstood as committing child abuse and even received a restraining order. This incident further isolated Joo Sang-chul, and his daughter reached a point where she refused to communicate, saying, "We can't understand each other."
In response to the uncontrollable state of his daughter and the father's misguided reactions, Seo Jang-hoon delivered a painful admonition. He pointed out, "If problems arise, it's ultimately the father's responsibility to resolve the situation. This vicious cycle keeps repeating. If something happens, you should scold them, but instead, you give them what they want. How can they not cause problems?"
He continued, "As times change, it has become difficult to scold. You need to firmly tell them what's wrong and what's incorrect, but it seems that he was weak in that regard," criticizing Joo Sang-chul's disciplinary methods as the fundamental cause of the issue. Seo Jang-hoon did not forget to issue a harsh warning regarding his daughter's future. "It could lead to the worst situation. Even though she is still young, if she keeps causing problems, she might have to go to a juvenile detention center or similar protective facility," he emphasized.
In particular, Seo Jang-hoon urged Joo Sang-chul, saying, "Honestly, there are no other options; you need to instill a sense of urgency that engaging in delinquency could lead to serious consequences. If it continues like this, there will be no methods left. You need to recognize reality and get your act together." Lee Sugeun encouraged the father, saying, "You shouldn't be depressed together."
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