A person is struggling with the delinquency of their daughter in the third year of middle school.
The 28th broadcast of KBS Joy 'Ask Us Anything Fortune Teller' portrayed the concerns of a person troubled by the parenting issues of their daughter, who has become a troubled youth in the third year of middle school.
Joo Sang-chul, a 44-year-old who works in a manufacturing job, expressed his sorrow, revealing that his 3rd-year daughter frequently arrives late, misses school, and has been involved in drinking, smoking, running away from home, and theft. Joo Sang-chul said, "She hasn't had good relationships with peers since elementary school, and it got worse after entering middle school, making her reluctant to attend school." When Lee Sugeun asked if family circumstances are important in sudden delinquency, Joo Sang-chul noted, "I divorced my wife two and a half years ago. She used to comfort her, but it seems to have gotten worse since she suddenly wasn't there anymore."
Joo Sang-chul and his wife often fought due to personality differences when their daughter was young. The daughter, who started misbehaving at that time, began hanging out with friends she met through social media. She would stay out all night and even used to procure cigarettes through adults to smoke at home. Joo Sang-chul mentioned, "Not long ago, my daughter got a boyfriend and reportedly slept over at his house without his parents knowing. After a while, I couldn't contact her, but when I eventually did, I brought her home, only for her to run away again within a day." Seo Jang-hoon lamented, "At this point, she lives recklessly. She's disregarding anyone's advice and is beyond control."
Joo Sang-chul first discovered his daughter's delinquency when he said, "At first, I scolded her and yelled, trying to discipline her. I even hit her, but I regretted it after the discipline ended. I took her camping and gave her pocket money to try to understand her feelings, but it wasn't easy."
The ongoing delinquency led to a crisis management committee being held at school, and meetings were arranged with the teachers to devise measures, but nothing improved. Notably, not long ago, during the process of taking his daughter, who was causing a disturbance, to the police station, Joo Sang-chul received a protection order due to misunderstandings of child abuse. His daughter was sent to a child shelter but ran away after just one day, committing further misbehavior, such as stealing clothes.
The delinquency did not stop. She stole perfumes offered at a PC room, scissors from a stationery store, and even used them for motorcycle theft. Joo Sang-chul is in a situation where he cannot seek help from his ex-wife, and when he asks his daughter about the reasons for her behavior, she refuses to communicate by saying, "It just doesn't register." Joo Sang-chul sighed, saying, "I provided everything my daughter wanted. But that was only at the time."
Seo Jang-hoon remarked, "If she causes problems, ultimately, it's the father's responsibility to sort things out. A vicious cycle is repeating itself. When she misbehaves, she should be punished, but instead, she gets what she wants. So why wouldn't she misbehave? Times have changed, making it harder to discipline. It needs to be clearly stated when something is wrong or inappropriate, and I think that part was weak." He added, "It could lead to the worst-case scenario. Even though she's still young, if she continues to misbehave, she might have to go to a juvenile detention center or a similar protective facility." Joo Sang-chul said, "There's a reporting system, so I've applied." Seo Jang-hoon advised, "Honestly, there are no other options now, so she needs to feel a real sense of urgency that her reckless behavior could lead to serious consequences." Lee Sugeun encouraged, saying, "We shouldn't be depressed together."
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