Fitness YouTuber J.J. revealed her honest feelings about the conflict involving her husband Julien Kang and her mother.
On the 26th, J.J. posted a lengthy message on her social media, clarifying the family conflicts depicted in the comprehensive channel TV Chosun's entertainment program "Loving Man of Joseon."
In a recent episode of "Loving Man of Joseon," J.J. revealed her cohabitation with her mother. During that broadcast, the conflict between J.J.'s husband Julien Kang and her mother-in-law was portrayed, raising concerns.
In response, J.J. said, "Due to the recent broadcast, there have been so many comments on community forums and YouTube, with many people worrying. People expressed their frustration, particularly followers who said, 'I thought you were smart, but I'm disappointed. How are you living like this?' So, I thought it would be important to share a few situations related to this."
J.J. first discussed her cohabitation with her mother, stating, "I lived with my mother before my marriage, and I am currently the head of the household. The question of why my mother hasn't moved out isn't a simple matter. Normally, when people marry, children leave their parents' home, but in my case, I needed to move my mother out while living in my space. Given that we didn't have a newlywed home, I had to find a separate place for my mother while my finances were tight due to investments at the same time. I have to bear all of my mother's living expenses and housing costs, which is my situation." She explained that there are many economic considerations beyond just the issue of separating or cohabitating.
Regarding her mother's reactions after the broadcast, she said, "Broadcasts may have intentional portrayals, so they are not 100% reflective of daily life. But everything is a first-time experience, and since my mother and I were close, it is true there were initial mistakes. I also believe that parents need time to become independent from their children. Julien understands this situation well, and now in our first year, we've learned how to maintain distance, so situations like those depicted in the broadcast don't occur anymore."
J.J. conveyed, "It is a blessing to have a husband who loves my situation, and I strive to be a wife who can embrace Julien's flaws and difficult times, trying to be a giving tree."
J.J. later deleted the post. She said, "I've deleted the lengthy TMI (too much information). I think it would be a bit embarrassing if my family saw it, and those who watched it will have seen it! The conclusion is that I will live well."
This is the full statement from J.J.
Due to the recent broadcast, there have been many comments on community forums and YouTube, and a lot of people are worrying on my Instagram and YouTube, too!
Many expressed their frustration, especially followers who said they thought I was smart but were disappointed... asking how I can live like this... I thought it might be important to share a few situations related to this. I will include a lot of TMI (too much information). (It might be too much TMI, so I might delete it...)
1. Moving out TMI
I lived with my mother before getting married and I am currently the head of the household. The question of why my mother hasn't moved out is not something to be viewed so simply.
Of course, this is mostly my circumstance. Normally, children leave their parents' home when they marry, but I was in a situation where I needed to move my mother out from my space. Given that we didn't have a newlywed home, I needed to find a separate place for my mother, but due to investment at the same time, there was no economic leeway. I am in a situation where I have to take full responsibility for my mother's housing and living expenses.
As many know, I have been separated from my father since birth, and my mother has lived alone, so while raising a daughter, she didn't have the ability to prepare for her old age. It's a situation that no one can blame.
My mother probably felt similarly when raising me alone. Fortunately, she had prepared well for the economic side, so I have never placed a burden on my spouse and believe it is the weight I must bear.
To those who say to simply move out right away...
If that means having to buy a house for your parents or pay rent every month... if you are the head of the household in that situation,
I believe decisions won't be easy (since that money also belongs to your spouse, their agreement is essential).
For this reason, I started my married life without moving out, and because of this, I am always grateful to Julien. (This part was expressed a lot during the broadcast interview, but I don't know how it will be edited!)
2. My mother is strange
As broadcasts are broadcasts, half of them contain intentional portrayals, so they are not 100% representative of daily life.
However, everything is a first experience, and especially given that my mother and I were close,
it is true that there were initial mistakes.
I think that parents also need time to become independent from their children.
Julien understands this situation well, and now that we are in our first year, we've learned a lot about keeping our distance, so there are no situations like those depicted in the broadcast. It might be regrettable that this process is necessary, but since no one can be perfect, I am working hard in the middle.
3. Environment of the spouse, life as a couple
I believe there are no perfect conditions for people in the world.
Many comments on this recently discussed worthy concerns about the broadcasting portrayal, but on the other hand, there were also plenty of unconditional negative views about supporting parents.
However, there are people with such family backgrounds in the world... Fortunately, I met a really good husband, and we always express our gratitude to each other, but I suddenly thought about how tough it must be for those who do not have that.
It is a blessing to have a husband who loves even such a situation, and I am trying to live as a wife who can embrace Julien's flaws and difficult times as a giving tree.
After seeing comments expressing concern about the broadcast, I felt I lack in many ways, but I think the important thing is to do my best.
Thank you to those who are worried.
Everyone has their own circumstances, and yet I believe that the most important thing is for a couple to be happy.
From now on, I will live while respecting each other without losing our affection.
[Photo] J.J. SNS, TV Chosun broadcast screen capture.
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