Singer and actress Son Dam-bi shared the reality of her tearful single parenting and honestly confessed the atmosphere between her and her husband had changed 180 degrees from before childbirth. Even after successfully completing a risky delivery, Son Dam-bi was struggling to cope with the weight of parenting every day.
Earlier, the domestic first childbirth relay program on TV Chosun, 'Our Baby Has Arrived,' revealed the process in which Son Dam-bi, who was in a high-risk pregnancy state due to placenta previa, underwent a cesarean section and gave birth to her daughter, Ha-ei. At that time, she expressed her feelings by saying, "I was skeptical about marriage because my relationship with my parents was not good. I didn't want to have a child either," but believed that "If it's this person, it would be okay to have a child," and went through in vitro fertilization, experiencing a miraculous pregnancy and childbirth.
Just before childbirth, Lee Gyu-hyeok comforted her by handing over a handwritten letter, saying, "Let's finish safely like the feeling before going to a match," and Son Dam-bi became emotional as she said, "Reading the letter made me feel at ease. I never thought marriage and childbirth would be part of my life." This revealed her expectation that Lee Gyu-hyeok, being a good husband, would also be a good father.
However, the reality after childbirth was different. In a video uploaded on the YouTube channel 'DamBiSon' on the 6th, Son Dam-bi, holding her daughter Ha-ei, shed tears. She said, "I took care of parenting for the first time all day with oppa (Lee Gyu-hyeok)… In the end, I cried," adding, "It's so hard that I cried in the early morning. The post I made on Instagram saying I respect all mothers was really sincere."
In the following scene, Son Dam-bi was responsible for most of the parenting, and she eventually exploded. She said, "Gyu-hyeok doesn't do it. I've been deceived, everyone. Look at me," essentially revealing her 'husband's declaration of non-participation in parenting.' It turned out that there were more responsibilities that a mother, not a father, had to handle. When the unaware Lee Gyu-hyeok said, "Parenting is fun," Son Dam-bi retorted, "It's not fun because you don't do it," and then added, "Men just sleep. I wake up even if the baby just stirs a little. I think that's a mother's instinct," conveying the hardships of the reality of parenting.
In the actual video, Son Dam-bi led every routine such as Ha-ei's feeding, burping, diaper changing, and putting to sleep, stating, "I don't even know how 24 hours go by. I can only eat when Ha-ei is sleeping. I'm also on a diet, so I'm trying to eat at least one proper meal." She also mentioned, "Ha-ei is 36 days old today. I've heard it gets harder as you raise them. Even though she's still a newborn and it's this tough, I can understand how amazing mothers are," conveying a mix of tears and respect.
Internet users are sending messages of support and empathy, saying things like, "No matter how much help a husband provides, it seems there are limits. 'Single parenting is the reality... Hang in there, Dam-bi unni,'" and "The saying that mothers are great comes naturally."
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